Relationship experts share why a WALK is the best first date idea

In an age of Tinder and Facebook dating, finding your soulmate may be only one swipe away, but it doesn’t mean finding the one has become any easier. 

And now relationship experts have revealed why going for a stroll is the best course of action when you are dating someone new. 

Paul Brunson and Mel Schilling have imparted their top-tier knowledge on how to create the best first date.

The pair divulged the ultimate first date idea is going for a walk with your potential new love interest.

But what reason did notable romance experts from E4’s Married At First Sight UK give for taking a simpler avenue for your first date?

Relationship expert, Paul Brunson, told the Breakfast radio show that it’s better to go on a walk so you are walking side-by-side with your potential new love interest. According to the professional matchmaker, men feel more at ease walking next to someone rather than being glared at due to evolution

It’s all about parallel play, according to the pair who spoke about the topic with Roman Kemp on Capital Breakfast – a fact that dropped the jaw one co-host, Siân Welby.

Parallel play is a behaviour exhibited among toddler, when they play with the same toys but will not engage directly with one another.

However, certain toddlers will watch how their peers play and copy their actions without fully making contact. 

This behaviour is common for toddlers ages anywhere between 18 months and two years old – and surprisingly, it can be applied to your dating tactics.

In response to Mel Schilling elaborating on the social phenomenon, Brunson explained: ‘You rarely see men talk eye to eye.

‘They really stand at a 180 degree, because through evolution if we look directly at each other we are getting ready to fight.’

According to the experts, if a woman is sitting and directly looking at a man over a restaurant table, he may get the urge to slightly position himself away from her gaze, according to the professional matchmaker.

But, the advantage of going for a stroll, in lieu of a romantic dinner for the first date allows for a man to contemplate things differently because you are walking side by side.

Mel Schilling (pictured) attributed the psychology behind successful first dates strolling in the park to 'Parallel Play', a behaviour exhibited by toddlers as they learn to interact with others

Mel Schilling (pictured) attributed the psychology behind successful first dates strolling in the park to ‘Parallel Play’, a behaviour exhibited by toddlers as they learn to interact with others

So-host of the Capital FM breakfast show, Siân Welby, was left gobsmacked when the experts revealed a walk was the ultimate first date

So-host of the Capital FM breakfast show, Siân Welby, was left gobsmacked when the experts revealed a walk was the ultimate first date

Brunson added: ‘Also the walk, what does it do? It builds, all the endorphins are firing off. That’s all you need.’ 

Schilling, who is a specialist in human behaviour continued: ‘I love that it is not in a restaurant because you haven’t got the intensity.

‘But also you have a good escape route you know, you can run.’

The Australian also advised potential daters to avoid heels and to place a ‘time limit’ on the first date. 

Many loved the idea of the simple first encounter, with some sharing their successful testimonies.

One woman wrote: ‘My husband and I used to go on walks together when we were 16 and we’ve now been together for 21 years.’ 

Another added their success to the list, commenting: ‘Worked for me on a Tinder date! Seven years later and [we have been] married for three.’ 

While a person said: ‘Mine and my boyfriend’s first date was a walk and we ended up doing 30,000 steps because we couldn’t stop talking.’ 

Others were in agreement with the romance experts, with one individual stating: ‘Totally agree it’s the best first date. Drinks can be awkward. Dinner is too much for a first date.’ 

Many took to the comments to showcase the outcome of their successful walking dates, however not everyone saw the appeal of the idea

Many took to the comments to showcase the outcome of their successful walking dates, however not everyone saw the appeal of the idea

Another commenter agreed: ‘A walk that leads to other things. Food, drinks, top tier fist date.’ 

But, not everyone was convinced by the thought of a simpler date, with one quipping: ‘My worst nightmare. A walk…’ 

While another jibbed: ‘I only ever have a coffee on a first date, so I can escape.’ 

Others joked that TikTok needed to keep the video away from a YouTube creator called, SheRaSeven – also known as ‘sprinkle sprinkle’ – a controversial dating coach, who advises women to date for money.

An individual wrote: ‘Don’t let sprinkle sprinkle see this,’ while another added: ‘Sprinkle, sprinkle would disagree, we’re not a dog that needs walking.’ 

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